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Maturity is overrated!

 

Think of it… you are living in a space where it is mandatory to act maturely. You can’t shout when you are happy, you can’t scream out that anger inside you, you can’t yell at yourself looking into the mirror, you can’t sing songs with all your heart out, neither can you dance to loud music… is living such life fun? I know these things do not play a part when it comes to professionalism and career and all those things. But it is an important element of life, happy life! Don’t you think living without boundaries would be fun? Staying at a place that we call our home is what we really feel … isn’t it the best?

Maturity is defined by someone as holding the burden of responsibilities on your shoulders but this very thing will not let your inner self come out anyway. It will build a wall of restrictions around you and create an atmosphere where someone is always there to watch you and judge you. Can you remember that one day in your teenage when you played your favorite song and danced like an idiot with your siblings or friends on your birthday party? Why does that freestyle and mindless dance have to change to just the movement of hands in 30 degrees standing at one point… why is it necessary to show that you are mature by performing things that are pulling you back from being you? Why is it that now suddenly the format of birthday parties has changed to something we no longer enjoy as much as we did earlier?

It's not just about birthdays, it’s about everything. I remember looking forward to Diwali in my childhood for all that enjoyment, but now we are waiting for Diwali for those holidays which will give me time for some house cleaning and completing my pending tasks… it has changed, and priorities are different but with this growing age, we also have forgotten that way of enjoyment… if this matured self is snatching away my happiness from me, why do I need it? Why should I act mature if that can’t give me a bunch of good memories?

You will never remember how your boss praises you after a successful meeting but you will definitely remember what your niece said when you were playing video games with him, mostly something random and silly on which you laughed hard. You are not bound to act mature at that place.

I do not deny the fact that sometimes it is important to be in a particular way. It is needed for that time being to achieve certain goals. But sometimes in life, we also should live with a free mindset. Do whatever you want regardless of the result, regardless of the people around you, and regardless of the outcome, without any aim of ‘acting something’.

No one is mature, even if it is a 17-year-old or 37 or 67. We just ‘act’ that way. Of course, we gain the understanding ability, and analytical power with growing experience what sometimes people call being mature but I believe that it is very subjective. I would call this character as your mindset development and not being mature.

Maturity should be measured in terms of general well-being. And NOT some predetermined conditions.  people label that he is mature, She is mature.
But I believe that it is conditional. Everyone's conditioning is different. Everyone has a certain measure of childishness.
It's just about who they are with... Everyone is just too childish with their closest friends.
In today's showoff society, people purposely act in certain ways that are not considered mature or proper. I know how I act at home and outside. I am still that kid at home, and my mother would prefer I stay that way forever than act all quiet and responsible.
It is up to us to decide how important someone else's view of us is.
Yeah, I agree that in some instances, it is vital to behave in a specific manner!! In professional settings, being yourself might bring more peace than pretending to be someone you're not. Being yourself is the best thing you can do.

 - aditi

 


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